I have a problem, it sucks, i hate it, and I can't do anything about it.
My problem is that I cry when I have any strong emotion, which sucks because it does nothing to define which emotion I'm feeling at the point. Sometimes I would LIKE to know what emotion I'm in the grip of that's making me cry so that at least I would know.
I get mad, I cry, I get frustrated, I cry. If I actually get SAD and cry, life is total crap. The bad part with being frustrated and crying is that, not only am I helpless to solve the problem, but it makes me feel even more helpless that I can't stop the flood of tears.
It gives you a clue just how many times this has happened because of how much I've psychoanalyzed myself in response to my outbursts of tears. And it's not because of hormones or anything either (although that does seem to make it worse sometimes) it just randomly happens.
Crying is a way to releave anxiety, hurt, and all of those other wonderful emotions, but if I'm having random outbursts like this, does that mean that I have a lot pent up and that I haven't cried ENOUGH?
Please comment, especially Melanie, you're the chemist.
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When you cry... even when you really want people who are present to help you, you want to limit it to a few people so you won't have to keep constantly explaining, thereby re-living whatever has you so upset.
As for what you're crying about. Nothing has really changed. It may be however, that before the situation was easier for you to deny or ignore, and now you are re-evaluating your feelings which are very complicated ones indeed. Nothing really has to change if you don't want it to...
Being floaty and non-steady in relationships means you don't have to break up with anyone officially if you don't want to... you just kinda don't call or anything. You should just do what you feel like at the time with no advanced planning.
Planning really emotional things often just messes them up... I don't remember if I told you this, perhaps I only told Joshua, but the part of your brain (the neo-cortex) that performs really rational things inhibits all of that love crap... Lovey stuff can only happen when you're in excited states of emotion... when you're irrational... So a lot of stupid, nonsensical things happen and you just have to deal with them. If you're happy, leave them be. If you're not, avoid them. All of the love s**t happens with really primitive parts of your brain that are just supposed to get you to reproduce. You can only evaluate that s**t in similar primative terms: Do I like it? Don't I like it? Should I stop it? Should I encourage it?
If you plan it rationally... it doesn't work. I know, it's annoying.