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 Posted: Fri Feb 17, 2006 6:41 pm
Sola Catella OpalKoboi I once read an article about asexuality, and I think I'm asexual. How can I find out for sure, and how can I tell people? Try asking those of us who frequent Gaia's Ask the Asexuals thread or the ASEXUALITY TALK. (To clear up some things--the Ask the Asexuals bit was originally in the GD while the Asexuality Talk was originally in the Sociality subforum of the ED. Don't let their current placement deter you.) It might also be a good idea to pay a visit to the Asexual Visibility and Education Network (AVEN). Thanks! Turns out I am asexual. Repulsed asexual, that is. Even the thought of kissing disturbs me.
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Posted: Wed Feb 22, 2006 12:49 pm
Guitar, I'm sorry about your loss, but... you've virtually handed me a soap-box and said 'here, get up on it!'
One person's issue may not seem 'wrist-slit-worthy' to you, but you have to remember that everyone perceives things differently. What might be meaningless to you could have a deep impact on someone else.
After all, if I lost my doll, you'd say 'what are you crying about? It's just a doll!' ... but perhaps I've had it all my life, I've cried into it, held it, loved it... Is it still 'just a doll'?
Anyway, I just felt the need to point that out, as one who's been close to suicide many times and attempted it thrice.
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Posted: Wed Feb 22, 2006 3:26 pm
love just doesnt appear in me
i cant say I love you, and i cant stay wtih someone
I had 2 semi dates, both ended that day
i fail at life
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Posted: Sun Mar 26, 2006 3:53 am
My experience in this is this:
I didn't lose my virgin until month before my 19 yr old birthday, with my first girlfriend... I really tought that Aspies were unable to find them lovers and even being able to have sex often... but I felt good being wrong about that biggrin ... hehe...
I really know now if you beleave in yourself, someday you find the right lover! Well, I'm not in love with my former girlfriend right now, but I know I can use my personality to find the right girl smile . Just don't be shy! And don't pretend to be tough! Never!
Well, I will admire that I met my only girlfriend first on the internet, but it was amazing how much we could talk over there, and when I met her, we were ready smile I had nothing to be shy for, I could express myself over MSN smile .
Well, even I ain't have a girlfriend right now, I'm always bright on the future, and I have found another girl, which is not Aspie, but really understands my problem smile .
This is very confuse-looking expression on my sex and relationships, and if you have to ask more, reply or send my PM smile .
Now I advertise for new friends who would like to talk with me over MSN smile , please PM if you are interrested smile or add your self to my MSN smile .
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Posted: Sun Apr 16, 2006 6:57 pm
Heh, the last "date" i had was with a person who had very aspie-like symptoms (I don't know the exact name of her disorder), and while she was emotionally fragile-as-eggs, my emotional detachment seemed to stabilize her. I kept her from leaving the prom several hours early bwecause her "friends" had "dissed" her. I couldn't have cared less what they thought, but she became a regular ball of tears... took me half an hour to calm her down. My lack of empathy and social bounderies seem to be a gift when dealing with those more in touch with their emotions.
The whole emotions stuff just doesn't work with me. My anger heats up very fast, and if the source of said anger is nearby, I'm liable to lash out. And i hit hard. I find joy unbalances me, and sorrow only depresses me. I feel very peaceful when I supress them properly.
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Posted: Fri Jun 02, 2006 4:14 pm
`Aine Chievious Sola Catella OpalKoboi I once read an article about asexuality, and I think I'm asexual. How can I find out for sure, and how can I tell people? Try asking those of us who frequent Gaia's Ask the Asexuals thread or the ASEXUALITY TALK. (To clear up some things--the Ask the Asexuals bit was originally in the GD while the Asexuality Talk was originally in the Sociality subforum of the ED. Don't let their current placement deter you.) It might also be a good idea to pay a visit to the Asexual Visibility and Education Network (AVEN). Thanks! Turns out I am asexual. Repulsed asexual, that is. Even the thought of kissing disturbs me. I dunno...I find it a little self-fulfilling to label yourself that way. I'm not attracted to guys, but I don't say that I never would be. What if I was, and didn't recognize the feeling because I had told myself so many times that I wasn't attracted to men at all? I think it's fine to do refrain from doing something you don't want to, but it's going a little overboard in my opinion to draw boxes around yourself.
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Posted: Wed Jul 26, 2006 3:28 am
Ah, I'm wondering how and when somebody should bring up their AS in a relationship.
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Posted: Fri Aug 04, 2006 8:27 pm
Lychee Fruit Ah, I'm wondering how and when somebody should bring up their AS in a relationship. Well, it might seems a little overbearing first thing, but if you wait too long, it might create a problem as well... I'd guess it would depend on how much you think it defines you. If you have it pretty bad, then you probably don't need to tell them there's something odd about you, so an earlier mention might be the thing. I didn't tell my wife until she started to mention certain things I did, and that took about five or six months. ...For the record, this was before our marriage.
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Posted: Mon Aug 28, 2006 1:22 pm
Lychee Fruit Ah, I'm wondering how and when somebody should bring up their AS in a relationship. after the first month or two, thats when my (first) bf who had/has AS did.
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Posted: Tue Aug 29, 2006 12:29 pm
Because I know I'm going to see Wojciech again tomorrow or the days after (first day of school, woohoo!) I need to know how to start my conversation with him. I have NO conversation starters. No, I DO NOT. He's somewhat shy, and I'm sure the 'Hi' approach won't work because he would say 'Hi' back, leaving me to start the conversation.
Anna: Hi, Vo.
Wojciech: Hi. ^^
Anna: Uhh......
How should I start the conversation? I want to ask him out to the movies or something, and leech some money from my mom. She already knows he exists and is fine with it.
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Posted: Mon Sep 04, 2006 8:51 am
Nintendonick4 `Aine Chievious Sola Catella OpalKoboi I once read an article about asexuality, and I think I'm asexual. How can I find out for sure, and how can I tell people? Try asking those of us who frequent Gaia's Ask the Asexuals thread or the ASEXUALITY TALK. (To clear up some things--the Ask the Asexuals bit was originally in the GD while the Asexuality Talk was originally in the Sociality subforum of the ED. Don't let their current placement deter you.) It might also be a good idea to pay a visit to the Asexual Visibility and Education Network (AVEN). Thanks! Turns out I am asexual. Repulsed asexual, that is. Even the thought of kissing disturbs me. I dunno...I find it a little self-fulfilling to label yourself that way. I'm not attracted to guys, but I don't say that I never would be. What if I was, and didn't recognize the feeling because I had told myself so many times that I wasn't attracted to men at all? I think it's fine to do refrain from doing something you don't want to, but it's going a little overboard in my opinion to draw boxes around yourself. Personally, I don't view it as a box but rather as a name for myself at the moment. I'm open to the idea that I might become sexually attracted to one or both genders later in life, but at the moment I'm pretty repulsed by the idea--hence my label of 'asexual.' In a way, it makes me feel better--I'm not the only one out there who doesn't want anything to do with sex! (note the parallel to why I like having the diagnosis of AS, by the way)--and also it gives me something to tell my parents or people who try to ask me out.
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Posted: Tue Sep 05, 2006 8:07 pm
Sola Catella Nintendonick4 `Aine Chievious Sola Catella OpalKoboi I once read an article about asexuality, and I think I'm asexual. How can I find out for sure, and how can I tell people? Try asking those of us who frequent Gaia's Ask the Asexuals thread or the ASEXUALITY TALK. (To clear up some things--the Ask the Asexuals bit was originally in the GD while the Asexuality Talk was originally in the Sociality subforum of the ED. Don't let their current placement deter you.) It might also be a good idea to pay a visit to the Asexual Visibility and Education Network (AVEN). Thanks! Turns out I am asexual. Repulsed asexual, that is. Even the thought of kissing disturbs me. I dunno...I find it a little self-fulfilling to label yourself that way. I'm not attracted to guys, but I don't say that I never would be. What if I was, and didn't recognize the feeling because I had told myself so many times that I wasn't attracted to men at all? I think it's fine to do refrain from doing something you don't want to, but it's going a little overboard in my opinion to draw boxes around yourself. Personally, I don't view it as a box but rather as a name for myself at the moment. I'm open to the idea that I might become sexually attracted to one or both genders later in life, but at the moment I'm pretty repulsed by the idea--hence my label of 'asexual.' In a way, it makes me feel better--I'm not the only one out there who doesn't want anything to do with sex! (note the parallel to why I like having the diagnosis of AS, by the way)--and also it gives me something to tell my parents or people who try to ask me out. I try not to name myself anything, though I will state my beliefs if people want to know. Of course, I can't really say what you will or will not do without knowing you well, so I won't badger you about it. I just think that, given general human nature, it's unwise to say things like that. But, like I'm going to make a concerted effort to tell someone how to live their life, right? (Especially in an HFA forum...) Just...be wary, alright?
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Posted: Sun Dec 03, 2006 2:19 pm
Takari Forever Hmm... it's been said before, but I'll say it again... What in the world are we doing asking other Asperger's for relationship advice? It's like the blind leading the blind... quite literally actually, being such blind in relationship issues and such. Okay. Done. I shall rafrian from the first grader's version to the Blind leading the Blind... But really, my lover here doesn't have AS, and he's in this Guild!
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Posted: Sun Dec 03, 2006 2:29 pm
Harra_Wizen Takari Forever Hmm... it's been said before, but I'll say it again... What in the world are we doing asking other Asperger's for relationship advice? It's like the blind leading the blind... quite literally actually, being such blind in relationship issues and such. Okay. Done. I shall rafrian from the first grader's version to the Blind leading the Blind... But really, my lover here doesn't have AS, and he's in this Guild! Yes. Exactly. Not everyone here has AS. Its for people who have it, and people who don't, and are just seeking advice to help others who have it, or for some other personal reason.
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Posted: Mon Dec 04, 2006 3:49 pm
[Blood Dragon] Harra_Wizen Takari Forever Hmm... it's been said before, but I'll say it again... What in the world are we doing asking other Asperger's for relationship advice? It's like the blind leading the blind... quite literally actually, being such blind in relationship issues and such. Okay. Done. I shall rafrian from the first grader's version to the Blind leading the Blind... But really, my lover here doesn't have AS, and he's in this Guild! Yes. Exactly. Not everyone here has AS. Its for people who have it, and people who don't, and are just seeking advice to help others who have it, or for some other personal reason. Well, Sakurai, most people here who don't have it know/are very close to someone who does have AS... take you for example! heart
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